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Shopping therapy on a budget?

Posted by: doubleknot on: June 28, 2009

What a weekend!

There was a “meet the neighbors” gathering where I in fact, met all sorts of neighbors I’ve been living near for years yet never knew.  They were all so nice!  Hub of course didn’t want to join in because he will have a moving truck in front of the house in a couple of days; understandable I guess.  But I did some networking and so that was good.

Then today I went with him to basically help buy everything to furnish his new place.  That was hard.  Well, he keeps making it hard.  He is grieving losing his home and I understand that.  The process while still amicable, is just sad.  When it’s not scary, that is. 

Still, I am looking forward to moving day, which ebbs closer and closer.  Bags full of his things are piled together downstairs.  In fact, everything he is taking is down there.  Some things are stacked in the garage.  It’s weird.  Uncomfortable.  He and I both wish this moving bit was over with already.  The act itself is just brutal.  Hard.  He is nervous and can’t eat.  I am edgy and tired a lot. 

Master says he is putting me on a budget once hub moves out.  I’m nervous about that too.  I don’t want him having such sweeping control over me.  Master would say that’s a lie.  “Yes you do.  You want it more than anything.”  I can hear him, lol.  And he is right I suppose.  In a way.  I do and I don’t.  Thing is though, I don’t get a vote.

I asked Master if I could buy a chair while out shopping for furniture, but he said, “Not today.”  If I wasn’t owned, that chair would’ve come home with me, lol.  The budget is for “discretionary spending”, so I don’t dig myself into a hole.  Master knows me too well, lol.  I think I do plenty of therapy shopping.  Who doesn’t?  lol

I’m craving chocolate.  And, actually, I have some, hidden!  I just remembered! 

So, that’s all.  Time to free the chocolate!

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3 Responses to "Shopping therapy on a budget?"

There was no way I could have gone shopping with my ex for anything after we determined we were splitting. The only time we tried to decide what I was taking and what he was keeping, we got in a huge fight and I cried so hard, I could barely see. And right in front of him, too, argh, it was awful. :(

I know every relationship is different. But I wanted to sever that “third child” bond I had with him ASAP. I remember telling my therapist how I was worried about how he would pay his own bills and shop and clean and how will he cope and she stared at me, then said, “Amber, he’s 45 years old! He’ll figure it out.”

True. Heh.

We are actually getting along better than ever right now. I think this divorce was meant to be. He and I both just wish the move was behind us.

I am not opposed to helping him, if it means getting him out smoothly and without upsetting the children more than they are already feeling.

I do tend towards that co-dependency thing however, and hopefully the ties will eventually be completely severed, lol.

I left my husband in that worst way-he came home and all my shit had been packed in my car.
I’m with Amber-when I left my husband I kept worrying about how he would be able to survive. I actually made him a budget before I left. He continued to ask me for money after we split up.
I hope its over soon for you.

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