Comments on: On coupling… and uncoupling… and being owned. http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/ from a slave's head to Master's ears Fri, 01 Jan 2010 13:34:16 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: doubleknot http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/#comment-1260 doubleknot Thu, 16 Jul 2009 12:58:04 +0000 http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/#comment-1260 I will wendiana. I know I will. Thanks for commenting! I will wendiana. I know I will. Thanks for commenting!

]]> By: wendiana http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/#comment-1257 wendiana Wed, 15 Jul 2009 18:48:53 +0000 http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/#comment-1257 I totally understand your loss of faith in your 2nd & 3rd paragraphs--I'm still there. I'm not sure how or when I'll ever get that back. I just don't trust anyone to that degree--sure, I'm in love, but there are pieces of me that I cannot hand over again. I hope you do get your faith back, loving & surrendering is a wonderful thing. I totally understand your loss of faith in your 2nd & 3rd paragraphs–I’m still there. I’m not sure how or when I’ll ever get that back. I just don’t trust anyone to that degree–sure, I’m in love, but there are pieces of me that I cannot hand over again.

I hope you do get your faith back, loving & surrendering is a wonderful thing.

]]> By: Amber http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/#comment-1251 Amber Mon, 13 Jul 2009 16:21:32 +0000 http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/#comment-1251 Yes, it's a giddy feeling to finally be free and on your own. When I moved out, I lived with a friend for several weeks; I didn't get my own place until later. When I did get my own place, Dan was supposed to move in with me. But I ended up asking Dan to wait before moving in because I just loved being on my own so much. I'd never had that before. It was euphoric. It won't last but enjoy it while it does! :) <strong>Amber, that's funny! Yes, I am enjoying the feeling while it lasts! Thanks for commenting :)</strong> Yes, it’s a giddy feeling to finally be free and on your own. When I moved out, I lived with a friend for several weeks; I didn’t get my own place until later. When I did get my own place, Dan was supposed to move in with me. But I ended up asking Dan to wait before moving in because I just loved being on my own so much. I’d never had that before. It was euphoric.

It won’t last but enjoy it while it does! :)

Amber, that’s funny! Yes, I am enjoying the feeling while it lasts! Thanks for commenting :)

]]> By: Tristan http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/#comment-1249 Tristan Mon, 13 Jul 2009 11:17:44 +0000 http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/#comment-1249 I can understand the apprehension but remember, you're owned. Unless you are released from that, you're owned. You're in a place right now that seems to be filled with options. You can have any life you choose right now. You might look at your master as another version of your husband but in fact he's much more than that. He has worked with you, guided you, supported you in ways your husband never could and he's given you something precious. Life with him is not going to be like life was before. At this juncture that is probably scaring you because, until now, a life with him was nearly impossible. All that's changed, hasn't it? Reach out to your owner for the guidance that, up until now, has been nothing short of just what you need. Your owner will sort it out for you in due course if you trust him to do so. As always you have options. He does, too. It seems to me that now, at this time exactly, you can decide if your submission was an escape from a poor marriage or a way of finding what you really need. It's something you need to talk to him about. I think, I hope, that you come to see he is not an excuse for changing your life but a result of your having changed it. Just my two cents <strong>Tristan: Thanks for once again hitting the nail right on the head. I am "in a place right now that <em>seems</em> to be filled with options", but really they are not mine. Yes. I am owned. And my owner will not let me forget that. I had a spurt of independence this weekend which has since quietly fizzled out. Thanks, as always for the master's perspective on things Tristan!</strong> I can understand the apprehension but remember, you’re owned. Unless you are released from that, you’re owned.

You’re in a place right now that seems to be filled with options. You can have any life you choose right now. You might look at your master as another version of your husband but in fact he’s much more than that. He has worked with you, guided you, supported you in ways your husband never could and he’s given you something precious. Life with him is not going to be like life was before.

At this juncture that is probably scaring you because, until now, a life with him was nearly impossible. All that’s changed, hasn’t it? Reach out to your owner for the guidance that, up until now, has been nothing short of just what you need. Your owner will sort it out for you in due course if you trust him to do so.

As always you have options. He does, too. It seems to me that now, at this time exactly, you can decide if your submission was an escape from a poor marriage or a way of finding what you really need. It’s something you need to talk to him about.

I think, I hope, that you come to see he is not an excuse for changing your life but a result of your having changed it.

Just my two cents

Tristan: Thanks for once again hitting the nail right on the head. I am “in a place right now that seems to be filled with options”, but really they are not mine.

Yes. I am owned. And my owner will not let me forget that. I had a spurt of independence this weekend which has since quietly fizzled out.

Thanks, as always for the master’s perspective on things Tristan!

]]> By: Tristan's pet http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/#comment-1248 Tristan's pet Mon, 13 Jul 2009 10:23:17 +0000 http://doubleknot.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/on-coupling-and-uncoupling-and-being-owned/#comment-1248 I'm beginning to think that the more we experience 'endings' in life the more difficult it is to believe in 'for ever'. Maybe it just gets harder as we get older for hope to triumph over experience. I'm wrestling with this one myself. Oh, and "I do tend to have higher emotional highs and lower lows than the usual person.".... It seems to be the case with many subs, I find. Certainly it's true for me. Big hugs Tp xx <strong>Tp: I agree. I think that's got a lot to do with it. past experience as well as age. The emo thing, I dunno about subs, just myself. Thanks for commenting!</strong> I’m beginning to think that the more we experience ‘endings’ in life the more difficult it is to believe in ‘for ever’. Maybe it just gets harder as we get older for hope to triumph over experience. I’m wrestling with this one myself.
Oh, and “I do tend to have higher emotional highs and lower lows than the usual person.”…. It seems to be the case with many subs, I find. Certainly it’s true for me.

Big hugs

Tp xx

Tp: I agree. I think that’s got a lot to do with it. past experience as well as age. The emo thing, I dunno about subs, just myself. Thanks for commenting!

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