La La La La….
Posted by: doubleknot on: July 21, 2009
What the heck? Where ya been Dk?
I’ve been quiet on the blog probably because of work and stress. My boss informed me the other day that I was overpaid on my last check, and they will have to deduct the difference from my next check. That figures to be … I’m not sure. Could be eight hundred dollars or so. So there’s that.
Then, there was an especially difficult case at work. I’d been caring for this man and he and his family were on my mind. I had a couple of “work dreams”. Hate those. Had a bout of insomnia on a work night over the weekend. Here’s me, awake from 1am til 3:30 am thinking about money, and work, and the fact that the alarm goes off at 5:30… Ugh.
Master graciously let me sleep in today until 8:30. That helped. I slept like a baby all night long and got some much needed catch-up sleep.
My sex drive has gone out the window. I told Master about it. Yanno what he said? “Close the window.”
Master says I need a good dose of property management and a good fucking.
I don’t know what I need. I’m just glad he knows.
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What’s in a Name?
I wanted to mention something. While Kaya has Scott, Chloe has Antonio, Amber has Dan, Carrie has Taylor, etc, I just have Master.
That’s because Master has forbidden me from using his name to address him without permission.
I rarely call him by his given name. He is always Master. So that’s why here on the blog I just call him Master. It’s pretty much the same in real life. Doesn’t matter where we are, he is always Master.
And it feels comfortable.
I don’t know if once we’re living together I’ll ever be able to call him by his given name or not, but if not? I’m completely at ease just calling him Master, no matter who is present. Because that’s who he is to me, and who he’ll always be.
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I had more, hence the line up there, but I think it will make a nice post later. That’s all for now. Gotta get ready to meet my dad for breakfast. See ya’ll laterz!
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7 Responses to "La La La La…."
July 21, 2009 at 11:58 am
Interesting and good points.
When talking ABOUT him to family and co-workers, I DO use his given name. So far, we have not been in their company. He has not forbidden me from using his name when speaking ABOUT him, … yet.
So.. When the day comes he DOES meet my family/friends/co-workers, it is up to him what I call him. So perhaps my post was a bit misleading and for that I do apologize.
However, KNOWING him, I strongly suspect he just MIGHT advise me to call him Master. I don’t know. Maybe he wouldn’t like that in front of his family or mine.
Interesting.
And as an aside, if he did want Master all the time, I of course would comply. It would likely be weirder for them than for me since it’s what I’m used to calling him after all this time.
As far as explaining goes, I would probably make light of it like, “He is my lord and master”. I’m sure I wouldn’t be looking to open a dialogue about our personal life. Or maybe I would say it’s just a term of endearment. Yeah. That would probably sound better.
Thanks for the comment Chloe! You always make me think!
July 21, 2009 at 12:41 pm
The vast majority of bloggers call their Doms “Master”; I would say Chloe, Carrie, Kaya and myself are exceptions.
Dan loathes the terms Master/slave, that’s why we don’t use those terms. In fact, he’s stubbornly opinionated on a whole buncha topics. Pig-headed, one might say. 
Like all doms, lol!
So whatever your dom wants you to call him is what you will call him, yes? 
July 21, 2009 at 3:07 pm
… and Pixie had her Richard, now has her Liam, and Meg, (aka Persephone) has her Luke…
But these are the ones I read mostly, and so yeah, maybe my opinion is therefore slightly skewed.
Master has always called me just slave. And subsequently, he has become simply, “Master”.
He is also big into the property/owner thing, and once in awhile I do call him my owner.
But yeah; it’s definitely going to be an individual preference here I guess.
July 21, 2009 at 5:10 pm
I admire that aspect of your relationship – that you’d be willing to calling him Master around your family, friends, and coworkers if that is what he wishes. It shows the strength of your relationship.
There is no way that I would be willing to do that, even if I was ordered to do it.
July 23, 2009 at 11:59 am
Wait wait wait.
I do call him Master. I don’t refer to him by his name, not on the blog, not to his face and not around lifestyle friends. He’s just.. Master.
I use his name when referring to him around other people. And I rather like that the people we talk to over the ‘net have picked up his name and use it freely. So does he. The whole “your Master” thing was getting too.. formal.. ? Something anyway. Nobody else should have to refer to him as Master because he’s not anyone else’s Master.
I guess maybe I lost the point here. That happens. *shrug*
July 21, 2009 at 9:41 am
The bit about being totally comfortable calling him Master no mater who is present is REALLY interesting to me… And how it was followed up with “gotta get ready to meet my dad” made me think.
I’ve realized there are three places I tend to talk ABOUT Antonio. One is on my blog, and there he is Antonio. It’s not his given name (though we picked it because several people have told him it “should” be his name, since his given name doesn’t suit him at all), so for me it has a connotation of “talking about him in the Masterly-sense” if that makes any sense? The name Antonio is reserved for the blog and the online world only, which it the only place we are totally open about our dynamic, so it is almost a special title for him. But, I digress…
The second place is to strangers… Like, if someone out and about asks me a question. If someone from another part of my company I never see comes over and engages me in small talk… Etc.
The third place I talk ABOUT him is to my mother, my brothers, my friends, my coworkers, etc. People close enough to me to say “Hey Chloe! How are you? And how’s Antonio?” They ask about him and I offer up information when it’s relevant. Like, “Oh, Antonio said something interesting about that today…”
But, anyway… I was thinking, if Antonio had me call him Master or Sir all the time, where would it cause a problem? And it wouldn’t be in the blog (you guys already get it)… And it wouldn’t be around strangers (who cares what they think)… It would be with my family and coworkers.
So I guess the question I have is… Would you REALLY be truly comfortable referring to him as Master around everyone? Like your dad, for instance? To your kids, your coworkers, etc.?
And if so, TEACH ME HOW YOU’D DO IT!!!! Because I know it would turn my stomach over and over and over, knowing every time it came out of my mouth to one of those people, I’d be stopped dead and asked for an explanation that I wouldn’t be comfortable giving.
I would feel like a complete ass for such an open display of my dynamic because it’s something I KNOW would cause them worry and concern since they don’t understand. And while there is a certain degree I can explain… I just don’t think my grandmother is EVER going to get it. I don’t think Antonio’s grandmother is EVER going to get it. I don’t think I’d be willing to explain it fully enough anyway, to certain people. Like my father? OMG HELL NO. So what’s would he be stuck thinking from hearing me call Antonio Master? Actually, scratch that question! I don’t even want to KNOW what he’d be thinking. He owns too many guns…
I guess I feel like, to them, it would be like if I took a pill out of my purse and popped it mid conversation…. Then a few minutes later, did it again…. And again. And they love me so eventually they are going to say, “OMG, what are you DOING? I love you and care about you and I have no idea what’s going on but it sure as hell LOOKS unhealthy.” And then I refused to explain, or said “Don’t worry, they’re vitamins!” even though there was NO way that was a full and satisfactory explanation, given that no one needs to take vitamins that often, I haven’t explained why I’m deficient in vitamins, etc…
Am I making any sense?
I just… I guess I have no idea how I could make myself comfortable calling him Master around ANYONE…
~Chloe, who knows that thinkin’ too much is a SKILL